Cons of Married Life

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  1. Passionate Pakistani
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    Passionate Pakistani The Don

    Jun 10, 2011
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    Just warning all the bachelors in case they decide to marry

    1. Your every single word will be judged, reviewed and analysed.
    2. Your every single act will be monitored closely like you are from ISI/RAW.
    3. Your siblings behaviour towards you will change significantly even though you treat them the same, they will act differently.
    4. You will be answerable not only for your deeds/words but also your partner's.
    5. You will swing like a pendulum between two families.
    6. Your own point of view will mean zilch.
    7. Your absorbing power/ temperament level will increase significantly.
    8. Most of your times you will be consoling one party or another.
    9. You will become a BP patient.
    10. Very rarely you will sleep without headache.


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  2. SwingNSeam
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    SwingNSeam Boom Boom

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    Get some help man.
     
  3. Mohsin
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    Mohsin Cornered Tiger

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  4. Fireworks11
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    Fireworks11 Kaptaan

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    Stay positive. It will get better man. Marriage is a major commitment and it can take time to adjust to it, especially if you been single for a long time.
     
  5. saiyan0321
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    saiyan0321 Cornered Tiger

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    especially if you are used to being an alone bachelor. People with joint families will adjust more easily however those that have the full Azadi where they spent all they earned on themselves and went whenever they wanted, watched whatever they wanted and did whatever they wanted, will struggle big time in a marriage.
     
  6. saiyan0321
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    saiyan0321 Cornered Tiger

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    11. The passion and sexual relations get withered out after having kids. :p :p :p :p:p
     
  7. saiyan0321
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    saiyan0321 Cornered Tiger

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    Or place double effort into work. Thats a great getaway. My friends Dad did the same thing. Was a doctor and now he leaves his house at 5 am and comes back at 12 am. just to sleep. Earning more money than ever so that is a positive. Ofcourse a lawyer cant do that. All courts have timing of 9 am to 4 pm so he cant find any excuse to not be at home apart from pissing her off. lets not even count the 30 day lower court vacation and 60 day high court one
     
  8. MNA
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    MNA Smooth Operator

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    Lol stop lying man. Wait till he gets kids, lmao
     
  9. MNA
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    MNA Smooth Operator

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    I married the wrong person, she was very beautiful, from a different culture, nothing wrong with her, but as time passes, you get to realise you two were two different people, even things that you thought were common, were actually just products of your imagination born out of your own desires.

    But atleast it was easier to call it quits, and drift apart, something much harder to do in a traditional desi setup.
     
  10. Passionate Pakistani
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    Passionate Pakistani The Don

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    Tbh my partner is very accomodating and understanding but its the collection of all issues around makes you wonder if it was really worth to marry

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  11. Fireworks11
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    Fireworks11 Kaptaan

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    Kids are a major blessing from God and a beautiful experience.
     
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    Fireworks11 Kaptaan

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    I think u r not used to living with someone else as you had been single for long time. It takes time to adjust to new lifestyle. It’s part of life
     
  13. MNA
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    MNA Smooth Operator

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    you shall be ok man, matter of time and you will soon be having your own little cricket team
     
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  14. Patriot
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    Patriot Kaptaan

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    if you liked your life when you were a virgin then sure its not worth marrying

    but every good thing in life comes up with a side dish which u may / may not like

    but at the end its all worth it. Your children are the biggest treasure of this world for you and you wont change anything in your past to change that part of your life
     
  15. ASLI-PATHAN
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    ASLI-PATHAN Cricistan Khan

    Apr 26, 2011
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    What? My bro just after 2 months? @Passionate Pakistani

    Be patient. With passage of time every thing will be sorted out.
     
  16. Mohsin
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    Mohsin Cornered Tiger

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    Tbh amongst my friends, it has been a mixed bag re marriage. Some are MashaAllah happily married and things seem smooth...some others, unfortunately not so great and smooth.

    It is what it is I suppose.
     
  17. ASLI-PATHAN
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    ASLI-PATHAN Cricistan Khan

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    The main point is to find a fine balance. I know it's like walking on a sword's blade. But you had to find a fine balance between two parties. It will take time but I am sure with passage of time you will eventually find this balance. Never take sides never.
     
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  19. Del
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    Del Cornered Tiger

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    Kya ho gaya hai bhai, bhabhi sai larki ho gay kya?

    Remember one thing, to make a marriage successful you will have to leave your ego out of the door and show a lot of flexibility.
     
  20. Del
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    Del Cornered Tiger

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    I really sorry to hear that.
     
  21. Del
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    Del Cornered Tiger

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    I used to get those thoughts too earlier but latter with time I realized that my wife has left a lot behind FOR ME. And now its my responsibility to support her in every step of the way.
     
  22. MNA
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    MNA Smooth Operator

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    Do support her in every step, but not because she left things behind for you, but because you love and cherish her. Don't take marriage as an obligation but as a journey together as a loving couple who have vouched to spend the rest of their together.
     
  23. Munna
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    Munna Moderator-e-Aala

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    Hi,

    Is this the "Freedom of Depression" club where all buzurg shadi shuda male afraad find solace for their domestic lives?
     
  24. Bella
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    Bella Youngsta Beauty

    Jan 24, 2010
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    So sorry to hear that. Why was it easier to split up? The same feelings are there aren't there? Was it a mutual decision? Would you say never marry someone that wasn't from the same culture, religion, etc?
     
  25. Bella
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    Bella Youngsta Beauty

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    Congratulations @Passionate Pakistani, you will be fine. Think of your wife and what she is going through. It is very hard for women too. I wish you great happiness, it is a great adjustment for both sexes.
     
  26. Mohsin
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    Mohsin Cornered Tiger

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    Welcome back @Bella. Though have been away from CS for a while so dunno if you've been posting in that time. Regardless, seems a lot of the old crew is coming back, nice to see.
     
  27. Bella
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    Bella Youngsta Beauty

    Jan 24, 2010
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    Thank you. I hope things are going well for you. You are a very kind and decent man. You deserve happiness and success. I have good feelings about all the cricistan crew and always hope they are ok. great to see people getting married and their careers are doing well. I have a very soft spot for them all even if I didn't agree with them sometimes. lol I have changed a lot of my opinions and have grown up a lot.
     
  28. ASLI-PATHAN
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    ASLI-PATHAN Cricistan Khan

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    Welcome back @Bella

    I think I will be the one with whom you don't agree at all. But it's fine. We respect your opinion as it is your right.
     
  29. MNA
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    MNA Smooth Operator

    Mar 11, 2015
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    It is never easy to split up especially when there is a kid involved. With age i have become more conservative and do not think will marry anyone out of own culture. I dont regret the five years together though.
     
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    maddgenius Whispering Death

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    How do you know? Do you have kids?
     

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