Discussion in 'The Pavilion' started by Saj, Jan 28, 2013.
What do you guys think about marrying your cousin?
Lol what kind of question is this Saj001
Thank god its not a tradition in my family.
Nothing wrong in it, but its not something for me....
Reminds me of childhood memories #jokes
I have seen a massive thread on PP regarding this topic but it is filtered with BS now.
Nothing wrong with finding out people opinion or their experiences.
Knowledge is blessing.
Its good as long as it is not forced..
Forced marriages times are gone.
What are your views on this Saj001 ?
I despise this concept of marrying your cousin. Allow it. Look outside and connect with someone else.
Not a concrete view on this.
There are pro/cons.
The advantage about marrying your cousin is that you know him/her well, which means that they can't keep any secrets (about occupation etc.)
The major disadvantage is that a single fight could create rifts in families (saying this from personal experience) [never met one of my chachas due to this.]
Forced marriages still exists everywhere.
We have had several cases of it here where parents have taken their children on "vacation" to Pakistan and forced them into marriage there.
Yep - it still happens.
Not in my family.
But it does exist in other families, here in UK.
No way. Goodness me
You read/hear many forced marriage cases from time to time. It's quite disgraceful tbh.
Mostly in families from villages. No offence but some of them are still mentally living in their villages back home.
More cases are related to families from villages with less educated persons involved.
So True Saj001.
My biggest problem is trying to unravel all the connections that someone is connected to you. Sometimes the links are over 5 different relations.....
Stories like this are an utter disgrace. Senseless pathetic stuff.
I would like to hear from posters who are actually married.
Maybe chandtara bro can give his opinons regarding this.
I disagree with the whole concept of 2 humans forced to spend the rest of the lives together against their will. Not only that it hardly ever works in this day and age from what i see going on out there.
Me personally, i chose who i wanted to get married too and its the best thing that ever happened too me. And yes i married in the family. Nothing wrong with that at all in my eyes.
Difficult to say if its not forced obviously and depends on each situation itself. Not married but I can relate a story of my friend who recently got married to his cousin last year and is Mashallah very happy. Both pretty much matched each other in terms of facial attributes, education and financial background. But as he says, he wasn't born and brought up with her as a kid and had very little interaction at start.
Bardi jaldi uth gaee ho aaj :lol
Not a fan. Thank lord I have waited so long to get married that now there are no female cousins left but this bothers me for so many reasons.
I am a very nice person or least I like to think so. Extremely fair and understanding long as no one mistakes me for a fool cause when I lose it...I lose it bad. Desi wives cousin or not are not very supportive of their husbands.
Don't like us to hang out with our friends. Spend the day watching cricket...'cousins' never really have had a life of their own. Which causes serious issues in my opinion. I could never live with that kind of person who didn't have an opinion.
Imagine trying to get out of that...knowing my family. They would get rid of me before they even think about getting rid of the girl.
Well.Not at all common in Hindus.Atleast not among first or second cousins.But marriage among distant relatives is common and its ok.because then you lnow everything about the family etc etc.From my POV it will be difficult for me to marry a cousin with whom i have spent a lot of time with since childhood etc.
people also underestimate the genetic/health issues marrying very close cousins.
i would find it quite weird....
Well keeping on side the genetic issues it is the best option in my opinion.
Genetical issues such as? I have heard about them.
There can be some genetical problem running in the family which can be multiplied in the child of such marriages because of the same genes. But honestly I had never seen such in all the cousin marriages in my life.
I think Saj001 is linked with someone in his family
The genetical problems exists in families where many generations earlier also married within the family.
If he is then go ahead bro, no fear.